Life is often challenging. Life is even more challenging when you feel you must face things all alone. Life is also more much enjoyable when others come along for the ride. If you find yourself without the real support you need, then, it time for you to create one. Perhaps the best initial advice is to be supportive of others. Most people will naturally reciprocate. Be supportive and you will get support.
Building your Support System:
1. Visualize your support system.
- What do you need?
- Do you need a shoulder to cry on?
- Do you need to borrow $20?
- Are you dealing with a health issue, or a health crisis, like cancer?
- Or, do you simply need a reliable friend to talk to?
- Once you know what your support system looks like, you can begin building it.
2. Begin close to home and branch out from there.
- Family and close friends are the obvious starting point for creating your support system.
- However, you must be willing to ask for help. And, many of us are not.
- It is also important to provide support when others are in need.
- Start with your closest friends and branch out to more casual acquaintances and colleagues at work.
- You may find that you also have a few neighbors who will help as well.
3. Engage in your hobbies.
- Other people who share the same interests can become new friends. You already have a lot in common!
- Be a good friend and you will be able to get the same in return.
4. Find a work mentor.
- This may be someone at your place of employment.
- It could also be someone from a different company or even a person who has already retired.
- When things are tough at work, you will have someone to rely on who is familiar with your situation.
- They will also have your best interests at heart.
5. Get into a support group.
- If you have a specific challenge, such as alcohol or drugs, or the death of a loved one, you can find a local support group and share your story.
- Those who share the same issue can often be the most sympathetic.
6. Find a spiritual mentor.
- A spiritual mentor might be a qualified yoga teacher, a priest or pastor at your local church.
- It may be a trusted friend who is more knowledgeable and shares similar beliefs, or a similar outlook about the world.
7. Become a Volunteer.
- Your fellow volunteers are likely to be supportive of your endeavors.
- You will also have the opportunity to appreciate how great your life already is.
- Find an organization that you believe in and provide support to others.
8. Join a local club or sports team.
- There is nothing like the camaraderie of a fellow team member.
- Indulge in your favorite sport and make new friends at the same time.
- You can also join clubs for chess, hiking, or knitting, to name a few.
- Find something you enjoy.
9. Remain open.
- Others are much more likely to be empathetic if you are able to be open with them.
- Share your story and allow others to see that you sometimes need help as well.
10. Look online.
- You can remain anonymous while getting the advice and support you require, on sites like Quora.
- There are an endless number of support groups and forums ready, willing, and able to help.
11. Get professional help.
- There is plenty of help available.
- Some of it will require payment, but there are also many free options.
- Speaking with an expert can be of great help.
Create a support system for your life.
Networking is not only for your career. The same skills are used to find people who will be supportive.
Create the network you need now so it will be in place to support you when you need it.
Was it you or I who stumbled first?
It does not matter.
The one of us who finds the strength to get up first,
must help the other.
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