Striving for excellence motivates you;
striving for perfection is demoralizing.
This is the second installment of a two-part series about regaining your “power.”
Studies have found that finding that even high-level, high-achieving professional women are battling insecurity and discomfort in using their voices to lead powerfully and being able say “no” or “yes” when it is needed. Many professionals, especially women do not serve as their own best advocate, nor do they experience feelings of being supported or properly mentored by other colleagues in the workplace. This in turn, often makes them reluctant to embrace new opportunities that may lead to advancement and leadership roles, especially if that change will make them move out of their comfort zone.
How do women work to gain empowerment, and avoid professional crises?
Last week we listed six items on the list. They were:
1. Life is complicated. You are complicated. Accept this, and move forward.
2. Say “yes” to more often to the things you want to do.
3. Let go when things aren’t working
4. Don’t let your ego drive your decision-making
5. Let go of perfectionism
6. Follow your energy flow
You can go back and read these in more detail here.
Let us press on…
7. Know your passions and your talents.
Know you well. Always look for work that emphasizes them. Too many professionals (women and men alike) have not taken the time to understand what they are passionate about in life. Those things that bring you joy and positive energy. This is an important step to take to avoid future professional crisis and burnout. Discover and specifically identify what makes you buzz. Know what you are uniquely talented at doing, and likewise, excited about doing, and move toward those endeavors. Find fresh ways to bring them into the open in your personal and professional life wherever possible.
8. Decide what your life outside of work needs to include
In order to move toward your own work/life balance and be confident and strong personally and professionally, you must know what balance means to you, specifically. Get as clear as possible about what your life outside of work needs to embody in order to express your inner life and desires. Once you know, your priorities will become much clearer. This will then allow you to have greater conscious control over how you manage your at-work life.
9. Realize your value.
Don’t sell yourself short. Never underestimate yourself. And, be your own advocate. Believe in yourself and in your potential.
Women tend to lag behind men are in an earlier stage of development in their ability to embrace and express their worth and value in the workplace as well as at home.
Start by understanding and appreciating your own value. Focus on speaking and acting from your rock-solid sense of self-worth. If you find this challenging, reach out to friends, family, or colleagues that you respect, admire, and trust, and ask them to tell you all about the strengths and talents they see inside of you. Believe in yourself and understand the enormous power you have to positively impact your own life and the world around you.
10. Get support
Elicit outside support. Get some new, unbiased and expansive perspectives. How? Get an outside mentor, coach, a Mastermind group, career counselor if needed, or someone who has done what you wish to do who can provide beneficial guidance. Helpful support is neutral, not biased, and seeks to help you on your own path, not someone else’s, by providing clean insights and perspectives on how you can draw on your vast potential to achieve what you truly desire.
11. Develop short- and long-term goals for every area of your life.
Then, act on these, and review your progress, continually. If you Haven’t done this already, it is past the time to sit down with a pad and outline both short- and long-term goals for your life and work that reflect who you are at your core, and what you wish your life to mean and contribute going forward.
Make your goals concrete, specific, behavioral and measurable, and do not limit yourself only to what you think is possible. Develop goals that reflect your true potential, and what you dream you can do. Once you commit these goals to paper, break them down into bite-sized, do-able mini-steps, and begin to take action. Revisit your steps and your goals regularly.
12. Be authentic
Take positive and courageous action and use your voice in empowered ways, always. Stop being afraid to put yourself forward.
It is time for you to step up.
Trying to be someone else in your workplace simply does not work out long-term. Do and say what is authentic and appropriate for you. Develop an integrated style that embodies your values around leadership, authority, power, delegation, execution, relationship, and communication. Exemplify a style that allows you to express who you are and what is important to you. The more you do this, the more it will become immediately apparent to you if and when you need to make a change in your professional or personal life.
Employing these strategies regularly will not only help you avoid professional crisis, but also bring you forward on a life-long path of professional and personal accomplishment, empowerment, self-confidence, and enjoyment.
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