The seasons are changing, it seems like life is speeding up on all fronts in the Berry home. I love Fall, in fact, I love so much about it that I can easily get overwhelmed. The school year starts, our college kids are local, so that means they have new schedules, our small groups start at church, our routines at home change as the cooler weather brings more outdoor fun for me personally. Work simply accelerates in the Fall months in my business and that’s a good thing right up to the point it isn’t. How do you handle self-care?
Taking time for me is one of the lessons I’ve had to learn the hard way. I am a naturally high energy person and I simply adore what I do for a living so it’s easy to do more than I need to do on any given day. What does that look like? Well, if you entered my home it looks like not enough time was spend on meal planning, more hurried gatherings around the table. If you looked at our bedroom, it looks like the bed is made (gotta do that…my Momma got that in my head early) but it also looks like too many clothes and too much laundry. You see my go to on laundry is someone else can be in charge of that…and if I’m out of clothes, well there are stores on the way. Awful I know, but truth for my over busy days.
Part of the taking care of myself is learning to take time for myself. Have you had a date lately with you? How about a planning time for your life? Are you willing to design the life you love? I can tell you as a business strategist that you’ll do more of the life you want when you take time to figure out what that looks like. Need more sleep? What does that mean for you? Want to be a size different than you are? What does that mean for your menu choices? Exercise Choices? Are you willing to take time to slow down or speed up to create a time for you?
Personally I have “time for me” at 5:30 every morning to 6:00. It’s my time in the Word and time to have time with God. I find that taking time to not just look at a health article, or organizational management outline, or budget but to take time to read the Bible and recognize that the one who made the earth probably has more reliability than those living on it. It’s not something I’ve done all my life. In fact, this 30 minutes just started in July. I recognized that I was reading the Bible like a novel and not a life application manual. Big change. At first it didn’t seem to be important, then Proverbs began to sink in. I always got the “sloth” kinds of versus from my country upbrining, you know “you are not enough and you’re wicked and slothful” messages. Uhm ….aligned to those easily, but I didn’t align to the versus that say how much God adores us, that He gave us boundaries to give us life, provision, and a purpose.
When do you exercise? I am trying to figure that one out still. I’ve committed to my handy dandy 10K steps a day. I’m such a goose I didn’t even realize that is almost 5 miles. I hoped for two and then got concerned when it took me 65 minutes to get there. Heaven help me if that friend in South Texas can do 13,000 steps in 1.5 hrs I can’t get there… then when I took time to realize how many steps are in a mile I had already breezed that goal.
Taking time for you helps you to FOCUS your goals, not some social media such as Facebook’s version of your success. Are you ready to own your life again? To be the person you seek to be? I believe it begins with taking time for you. Focus on what you’re doing well and then perhaps focus on what you no longer need to do, be, or hold on to. It has been a life changing experience for me the last ninety days and I bet it will bring some new awarenesses for you. Go ahead, do it! Set an appointment for 45 minutes each week, spend the first 15 minutes writing down what you are already doing well! Spend the 2nd dreaming/thinking/planning what you’d like to be different in your life that you have the ability to do yourself. (For me these are like “I’d like to have more dinners ready in the freezer, I’d like more time with friends, I’d like to be more patient through more margins on deadlines”) and then the third 15 minutes do something specific for you right now. I chose to take that 15 minutes and plan all my appointment calls for the month, hair, vet, reservation for a dinner,…things I never seem to get done and then I gave myself a sparkly star on my datebook …after all, taking time for me means that I deserve a sparkly star too for self care!