- Play on the SAME Team
- Take Care of Yourself
- Worship Together
- Play Together
- Work Together
- Share Secrets
- Maintain Boundaries in Social Media
- Maintain Boundaries with Others
- Know What you Stand For
- Kiss in FRONT of the Kids
- Know and Speak the Love Language of Choice
- Surround Yourself with Strong Couples
- Set Goals Together & Work Towards Them
- Use All Five Points of Connection
- Be Each Others’ BIGGEST Fan
- It’s Not a Competition
- Don’t Assume They KNOW
- PDA Makes Them Feel Secure
Playing and having fun in life is so important. All work and no play is the fast track to burn out, wouldn’t you agree? Doing things together together and going on “dates” is so important, because the laughter and joy that comes in leisure time together creates a reserve of happy memories to draw upon when things may get rough or difficult in the marriage. I am not saying that’s the only reason you do fun things together, but it sure is a precious benefit.
Can you think of some things you loved doing with your spouse?
Here’s something to consider, not everything you do together has to be mutually enjoyable to the other. For example, Jerry and I go kayaking together and we also ballroom dance together. He prefers kayaking and I prefer dancing, but we do them both together because it’s important that each of us have some say in what we do for leisure. Jerry loves watching movies, but he usually picks one that I want to see just so we will watch it together as I have a hard time sitting still that long! 😉 All the action shows he watches when I’m not around, which is perfectly fine with me.
What are some things you like to do that your spouse does not (as well as things that your spouse likes that you don’t) that you could still do together simply because you are committed to investing time together in strengthening your marriage?
If you have haven’t been doing things together or going on dates with your spouse, it’s time to take some action in this area to make your marriage stronger!
- Make a list of all the things that you like to do together as well as individually. If it’s been a long time, think back to things you did together when you were dating.
- Pick four things off the list and put them on the calendar – one a week for the next four weeks. Dates don’t always have to happen on Friday night either. “Date night” can turn in to breakfast in bed or going out to lunch because it works better for your family schedule.
- Make your “back up plan” for the measures you will take to ensure you GO ON YOUR DATE even when your boss says your you have to work late, or the kids get sick, or some other crisis occurs.
When you set the intention and take action to spend time together having fun and enjoying each others’ company, you will find creative ways to make time together possible!
I would love to hear what your favorite activities are for “dates” with your spouse. Leave a comment below or on Facebook. 😉