The S word: SUBMISSION! Should You?

Do submission and doormats go together? NO! God wants you to enjoy a healthy marriage.

SUBMIT. Discuss this S word among friends, and you may hear snorts and see eyebrows rise. You know what they may think: Submit? Me? You’ve lost your brain.

And yet. . .

God (yes, the one and only true God) commands us to submit to Him and to one another, with additional emphasis on wives.

You may have heard this verse quoted, word by word, sometimes pridefully, sometimes timidly, and only occasionally with proper use:

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting to the Lord.” (Colossians 3:18)

Two similar verses pop up in Ephesians.

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

“Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:24)

Hit Pause. Like now.

Whether you’re married, single or single again, this message is for you. The battle of the sexes, especially in our homes, endears us women to the devil, who not only wants marriage redefined — you know, guy with guy, gal with gal — but also destroyed.

OK, hit Play.

While many can quote the “wives submit” verses, fewer remember its counterparts:

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19)

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)

“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives, as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:28)

Women: submit. Men: love.

Both husband and wife are called to self-sacrifice. Look at the word the apostle Paul, inspired by the Holy Spirit, selected for love: agape in the Greek. This self-sacrificing kind of love isn’t about sex or affection or brotherly kindness. It is the kind that lays down one’s life for the other.

It looks a lot like. . .submission.

As a Bible study author astutely pointed out, an argument in such a home would sound like,

“I insist that you have your way.”

“No, no, really, I insist you have your way.”

Wow. Imagine the tone of your arguments, if each tried to out-sacrifice the other. Imagine the number of marriages that would flourish. The kids too.

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